My Debt Blog

I feel financially defeated this month already and the month has barely started. My wife’s friend had a birthday party this past Saturday and invited us downtown to celebrate with her. Since according to my wife that we never do anything fun, we had to go do this. I got my paycheck two days early so there was some money available now.

The weekend started with Friday going to the mall (I HATE MALLS!) and eating out at Subway ($13). Then we had to go shopping because I guess I needed a shirt. I got two shirts at the GAP ($62) I hope she won’t mind me wearing for at least two years. At least we went home after that.

Saturday brought the bulk of the expense. I got a haircut at a place down the street ($16) and my wife got her nails done ($40) at a salon she frequents, to her credit this is semi budgeted. Had to fill up the car with gas ($32) and got cash out of the ATM ($100) to bring with us. Drove to downtown Chicago, north side and searched for public parking for 45 minutes so we could stay with a friend (FREE!). Got some drinks ($15 from $100 cash leaving $85) and ate pizza (my friend covered it) and got ready to go out. We decided to take a cab to the lounge ($10 from cash, $75 left). This is where the fun part came in. For $35 a person, cover, drinks, included, to get into the place ($70 gone from cash, $5 bucks left). My wife and I made sure to get our money’s worth out of that though and after about 10 drinks I was good, my wife could still hold her own at 6. By now it’s roughly 2:30 in the morning downtown and we leave the bar and go to her friend’s new apartment. We decided to get some greasy food to go with our booze and I ended up using some random ATM and paid the fee ($20 cash plus $3 fee, whatever the food cost). We had to take a cab back to our friend’s apartment at 4 in the morning (used the last of cash).

Sunday my wife and I were probably slightly hung over from exercising a barely used drinking muscle but were able to function, just not very efficiently. We rolled out of my friends place around 1 in the afternoon and at lunch ($15) and then headed home. I didn’t do much of anything yesterday so I will have to do more today to make up for the loss of a weekend.

We still have bills to pay and need to keep on top of other things and now I feel down $300 starting out. I have a feeling we’re going to be eating at home all month and really watching the money situation for this month now. It is difficult for some reason for me to convey to my wife bills and expenses should be considered before other stuff, but that isn’t always the case. She still wants to move downtown but there is no way we could do this kind of thing every weekend. This month our cell phone plan is also up so that means we will be getting new phones as soon as possible. I just wish I knew how we were going to pay for them without causing a fight, but more on that later.

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I can’t put it simple than that. The realtor sent me a PDF with a projected sales price and a breakdown of all the fees, which there are over 10k in fees alone, of what it will cost me. One thing I forgot to consider was the property taxes in the state of Illinois are paid in the rear. So this year I am paying 2006 taxes and my escrow is building up for 2007 taxes. That part hit me off guard a little bit.

Even if the house were to sell for more than what the realtor suggested, it still doesn’t reduce it a whole lot. Either way I have to come up with some money to get rid of the house, or just hold out on it until things change. There’s a reason for why the area I am in is losing value: renters. Every other house in my neighborhood is rented! Having so many in this area lowers the value of the units that are lived in by the owners. The renters have really made themselves known over the past few months. Lots of noise, increased parking on the streets, dogs (and what they do), and worst of all is spray paint on the sidewalks. It is beyond me how so much can change in an area within a year. At the same time I am concerned it may cost me more if I were to sell next year. There have also been two foreclosures in the neighborhood that push things way under market value.

So why would it cost me 8k to sell the house? The equity in the house isn’t very high because I had very little down payment and have an 80/20 mortgage setup to avoid PMI. After everything is settled with the first mortgage, the difference between the balance on my HELOC and what is left is 8k. If I don’t use a realtor I could save half of the 5% commission and do for sale by owner. That would probably reduce the amount I would need to come up with at close.

Just so everyone knows, I can afford my house. I am not in any way in the position of facing foreclosure if it were not to sell. Everything is current and I can hang onto the house just fine. The area has just changed to something my wife and I are not happy with and moving closer to the city is more appealing. We’re going to improve some areas the realtor pointed out to us and do a real extensive cleaning this weekend.

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I knew this would happen when my wife told me she took cash out of another bank’s ATM. Not only did she get that $1.50 charge for doing the transaction at their bank, our bank charged us $2 for using another bank’s ATM. So the total for this cash transaction is $3.50. I really hate bank fees and go out of my way to avoid them. Convenience or just being lazy seems to be the only reason she accepted these fees in order to get money out.

I’m not sure whether I should be mad about this or disappointed. She knows that I really don’t like paying fees or fines because that is money, for lack of a better word, wasted. At the beginning of the month I did not think $3.50 of our money will not have a purpose. Money is like sand in a way that it will slip through your hands if you let it and once it’s gone, you have to wait for more sand to fill your hands again.

This blog is turning a direction I did not intend for it to go. The blog is about paying off my debt and how I’m making progress to do it. I love my wife but we do not see eye to eye on handling money. Don’t get me wrong though, I like to spend money too, that total on the right is all me. I am now trying to do my best to get us both on track and at the same time pay off our debt. The concept of not buying something we want when we don’t have the money for it is no more because with credit, we can have, or appear to have, anything we want right now. I’m trying to destroy this idea and only use our money to own things and get out of debt. Thank you to my readers for the advice lately.

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