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There is so much scare out there about the sub prime mortgage lending damaging the economy. What confuses me is why so much blame is being put on the sub prime loans when it should also be shared by the consumer who signed up for that loan. For anyone who has ever bought a house, there is so much paperwork involved and it is a process to get the financing in order. At closing it can be exciting to just get through that paperwork so you can get the house. Did you have a real estate attorney at closing explaining and showing you exactly what you were signing? I did and know exactly what I am dealing with regarding my loans.

If someone buys a house they simply cannot afford, should it become a problem for the government to bale out people using taxpayer dollars? Our government will bale out corporations due to limited liability, sends money overseas as aide for other countries, but can’t help the average Joe save their home? The government is not going to make a person more responsible by helping them save their home. Regulation isn’t going to fix the existing problems of people trying to borrow 500k and pay 1k a month. It all seems fine until the payments adjust out of control and there is no way to handle the new payment.

When I got my house a year and a half ago, my credit was good and the time seemed right because I was getting married. Instead of doing one lump loan for 30 years, I did 100% financing through 2 separate loans. My first is a 80% 7 year ARM at a much lower rate than the fixed loan, lower payment, and no PMI. The second is a 20% HELOC which made up for the difference and structured the loans so I would not have to pay closing costs. This seems stupid to me now to have done it this way when I had 10k sitting in the bank. I did end up paying off my car and going on a completely paid for honeymoon, so what’s done is done.
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I have been pretty upset with my wife since last night. She is going to be student teaching soon and has some time off until the school year starts. This week she has gone out shopping for clothes and setting things up for school every day. Our ‘budget’ has some room for her to be able to spend some money on clothes, but what happens when it’s gone? That is where the fighting started.

She came home with a few more bags then I had expected. At first I brushed it off because I just didn’t want to know what she spent on all this stuff. Later that night she modeled the various things she bought and I tried to keep my cool. Then the ultimate question came up: how much did all this cost? She told me not to worry about it which confused me at first, then she told me she opened a new credit card and charged about $250 on it. It feels every effort I make to pay off debt is shifted into a new debt.

This is when it got interesting because she told me that when she is done with student teaching and gets her job, she wants her own checking account to handle her money. I told her it is a good thing I’m not that selfish with my income in that I consider it both of ours since it pays the mortgage, bills, and general cost of living. It’s not like this stuff is invisible either because I show her the exact amounts of what all this stuff costs and the extra at the bottom is the only wiggle room we have. Its not that we don’t have enough money, there’s just not enough extra for her anymore.

It always seems like a simple solution is when there isn’t enough money for lifestyle, instead of cutting lifestyle for a period of time, try to make more money so the standard of living doesn’t change. We are effectively going nowhere quickly because any progress is balanced out by overspending. I’m also being compared to our friend who is in the banking industry and recently was promoted to a VP at the age of 25 (same age as me) and got a huge pay increase from his already large salary, which I’m not sure what to think about that. My wife wants me to keep pushing for promotions and pay increases and my response is always the same, it all takes time. It is starting to depress me when I’m trying so hard to make our lives better and she only sees success as job title and salary. She still doesn’t know for sure if teaching is what she wants to do for a career. I don’t know what to do anymore but things are really ugly right now.

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I decided to take a peak at my credit reports, and score for the fun of it. First off my credit score didn’t really change much, it’s at 700 as of today, although that doesn’t really matter much. What I was looking for was what was in my actual credit report.

Mortgages shows I have two which I do. According to the area that I could improve my score if I got more mortgages that would help. Not sure how that makes sense but I guess that is what the models suggest.

Revolving accounts (credit cards) I have 18 in total. There are 10 of them that are closed, or should be closed because they are not used or their history really has no actual value. I don’t want to close everything all at once because I think that might look bad. Some interesting stuff I found was I have an Old Navy store card I don’t remember opening or using from years ago. It has no balance but did have a high balance of $39 at one point. The other interesting one was a Sears card with a $7500 limit opened in 1996. I’m not sure how a 14 year old kid could open a credit card like that with a line that large. There’s only four cards with balances which I fully disclose their balances and limit every month.

Installment accounts there are 12 of these. Now 8 of these are either closed or need to be reported closed by all three bureaus. Two of those are closed car loans, the remaining are student loans that were consolidated/transferred but not properly reported as closed. The remaining 4 are my student loans and for some reason my gas company reports to TransUnion that I pay my gas bill. I have never seen anything like that before on a credit report.

Every account is current and there are no 30/60/90 days late. There are no other accounts or collections, nothing flagging a negative account.

Inquiries there are still a ton of them from when I shopped around for mortgages at the time I bought my house. The latest was from my bank in April when I opened up my emergency fund account to hide 1k cash from myself.

I need to draft some letters to contact the bureaus to have them update the status on some of these accounts. One reports something closed and the others think it’s open. There is stuff that is open on all three but I neither use nor need, so I will try to close those accounts myself. It takes a month or few to get these things resolved so I will revisit my credit report at a later time to make sure everything is cleaned up.

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One of my little hobbies that really isn’t necessarily productive or anything like that is gaming. I know some people cannot understand why someone would be willing to sit in front of a TV for hours at a time, drinking Mt. Dew, and trying to keep their fingers from not cramping up. Walking through Target the other day and there it was, the Halo 3 preorders are available to reserve a copy for the 9/25 release at midnight. I want this game very badly.

What could I do with $60 though? My Zales credit card could get paid off that much faster if I added $60 to the payment, and I would kill that account maybe a little bit quicker. I could save that $60 for Christmas and just hope a copy is available later. The last one that came out around the same timeframe was Halo 2 and my wife held it hostage from me because it was for Christmas. I can’t go through that again, it’s not a healthy or normal behavior and puts me in a really bad mood.

This sucks so much. My wife has no problem with me buying it since she has a tendency to buy things she is after. She knows better than to go and buy a car or something stupid like that, but I have come home to certain purchases that ran us a few hundred in the past. That is the past though and we have both bought stupid expensive things that I would like to actually pay for now. Not all expensive things are stupid. I’m referring to the Zales account. I still don’t own my wife’s engagement ring and we’ve been married for over a year and engaged a little more than a year prior to that. All the other rings and earrings and jewelry she wears are completely paid for, but not the engagement ring! It feels selfish to actually want something but know that money could be used for another goal.

I got the Xbox 360 system for Christmas last year. It was probably paid for with my wife’s credit card too, so we don’t really own the stupid thing. Sometimes I look at the things in my house and try to figure out whether or not we own it or if we’re still paying for it. All of our furniture is completely paid for which is really nice because it’s nice furniture and the couch feels comfortable to sit in. My basement so much crap in it I can’t completely know for certain what is and isn’t paid for yet. Either way that file box I have with the copies of the statements for the credit cards still have balances on them. Those balances were built up buying something.

This is really hard for me. I try to sacrifice so much and am now plagued by my own want. Now I don’t really know what to do.

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I didn’t have much to post last week after the crazy $300 weekend that spawned a ton of comments from my readers. This weekend wasn’t that bad except for Saturday. Our cat decided to jump on a table and chew on my wife’s iPod. Now my wife is extremely picky about wear and tear and needs everything new looking all the time, so this was not good. I got her this thing for Christmas like 2 years ago and now it is no good because the cat chewed a button on it?

We went down to the mall (HATE HATE MALLS!) to the Apple store to their GeniousBar (yeah, and they use Macs, right) to see what could be done. They told us it could be replaced for $99 but he suggested the little wear and tear to this unit, it might be better to eBay it and buy a new one. She likes hers because it’s original and looks to me for the answer regarding spending $99 to replace this thing. I was annoyed that the decision has to end up in my hands, but I told her that we really don’t have the money right now to do this and there is nothing functionally wrong with the device. Needless to say, she didn’t like my answer.

After she calmed down about not replacing the iPod, the tables turned to cell phones. Our current cell phone contract is up and we’re going to switch providers, and get new phones of course. She thinks it would be a good idea to get an iPhone so she can get a new phone and an iPod in one device. I didn’t even have to say anything to let her know my answer. The iPhone is a toy! It is a very expensive, media hyped, expensive, fancy looking, expensive, toy! Then she just told me she would get it with her credit card. I feel like things are spinning out of control. As I am working so hard to avoid credit, spending, etc. the efforts are being counterbalanced by my wife.

Not sure what to do here anymore. I feel like we’re going in our own directions here and not working together. The pressure of having to borrow money to sell our house bothers the crap out of me. Sure it makes sense to trade a larger loan for a smaller one, but I think this is the wrong time to do this. I would like her to get finished with student teaching, currently a few miles from where we live, so that we could move next year once she’s done. The market sucks, moving sucks, and borrowing money to move sucks.

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It has been yet another rough month with some unexpected expenses. All the bills at least got paid, including the dreaded car insurance bill. Some extra money had to come in from the EF and other sources (my birthday) to cover things this month. Part of the problem is things became due early in the month when the money is not available. I also hate playing the catch up game from the previous month. There was way too much month for the money to go around.

I also need to come clean on something. My wife and I celebrated our first wedding anniversary and we started out the month in the red. I ended up using my credit card to buy her gift and go to a fancy restaurant. The damage is about $400 and this month’s payment pretty much covers the finance charges but does not do much to the principle balance. She also used her credit card to buy my gift, something I needed, and another smaller one, something I did not. I at least convinced her that the other thing was not necessary, so it could be returned. Resorting to a credit card when we didn’t have the money is not something I’m proud of anymore. I feel guilty and embarrassed, but did not want to ruin our first anniversary because the money wasn’t available for that moment.

Last big chunk of news is my teeth are breaking down from a lack of responsibility in my early years. I never had much of a problem taking care of my teeth as a kid, but when I got braces it became complicated to try to keep everything clean. A lot of the problems could have been addressed if they were caught early. I also was not the best at going to the dentist during my college years to even have the opportunity. At my dentist appointment this past weekend, I need to have about 3-4 molars crowned at about 1k each out of pocket because I have maxed my insurance for the current year. There is not much of a time frame for how long my chompers will last before they start break down. So far I have had prep work done on 2 of them just to hold me over for now. The good news to all of this (yeah what good news) is I have no problems with the nerves or roots and won’t need any root canals done. The dentist offered me a payment plan system where I could borrow what would be needed to cover the cost, and then make monthly payments over a predefined term. I really don’t want to borrow money, but at the same time I don’t want to lose my teeth trying to avoid debt.

I’m not sure if this is the best time to be selling the house. There is no money on hand to do it right now, which my wife hates to hear. She has been drooling over apartments lately, some of which the rent is higher than our current mortgage payment. That is not a direction I will even let her pretend to justify to me. We’re going to lose money on the house in closing costs because the house is not going to sell for much more than we bought it. The market is soft and slow, there are 26 other houses in our area on the market, and only 1 has a contract. The realtor says we should jump in quickly and get on the market if we want to have a chance to sell. I’m not completely on board 100% about selling anymore which pisses off my wife to no end. We are not in a very good position right now to sell and at the same time get an apartment. She currently has a summer job, but I’m not sure what job she will do later this year if she delays student teaching. I would like her to finish her master’s degree and be officially done with school so she can focus next year on getting a job as an actual teacher. Part of me feels she is not happy about everything is that she has been in college for the past 6 years and is having trouble finding the end. I’m not sure what I’m going to do anymore. It feels like my foundation is coming apart beneath me.

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It was pretty rough this past week trying to get our bank account to survive until payday. I don’t like all the money going out so quickly either, but the time frame for some of these things put us in a bottleneck. With the money coming back in again it eases the pressure to get things done. I would just like us to have more long term goals beyond the end of this month. At least I am considering December already because car insurance and Christmas always feels like a one-two punch.

This weekend we’re going to have a garage sale to try to hopefully get rid of a bunch of stuff we have taking up space in storage. My wife thinks we should also sell our dining table and the 4 chairs out there with the stuff we wouldn’t miss. I asked her what the intentions are for the money from the garage sale, and sure as I already knew the answer, we would need to go out and buy us a new table and chairs to go with our furniture. The only real positive side to this is we would have the money to pay cash for this new purchase. On the flipside though, why replace the dining table and chairs if we don’t need to? I don’t get it.

My wife is excited for some reason to get rid of our house and go rent an apartment near the city. I’m not sure what timeframe she has in mind that we should move, but the realtor we bought our house with does not want to work with us to sell it. She says that because it has only been a year, the market is soft, and there is not a ton of equity involved, it might be difficult to sell and we wouldn’t make money off it, or even cost us money to sell it. We don’t have the money available at this time if it does cost us to sell. The answer of course is to find a realtor who is willing to sell our house, not considering the cost of course. The house is financed under me alone because I bought it just before we were married, so I could refinance the loans and possibly turn it into a rental that would pay for itself granted I find the right people.

So why is she excited about selling the house even if it costs us money to do it? She has been browsing these rental websites finding various apartments or condos for rent with really nice stuff. Stainless steel appliances, granite countertops, vaulted ceilings, nice view overlooking the Lake Michigan and/or Chicago, and of course these places are near stores, parks, bars, etc. Details of course that I look at are the cost per month, which is lower than what we pay now but only by a few hundred, is that even worth moving?. The other part is most of the time apartments require a security deposit of about one month’s rent. So we would need to have the amount of the rent available just so we can rent the apartment. The money does not have much of a plan so nothing is earmarked to be saved each month. I’m trying to explain to her that we need a budget so the money has a purpose and isn’t spent before we even have it (currently the biggest problem). It is taking time but nothing has clicked yet.

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