My Debt Blog

One of my little hobbies that really isn’t necessarily productive or anything like that is gaming. I know some people cannot understand why someone would be willing to sit in front of a TV for hours at a time, drinking Mt. Dew, and trying to keep their fingers from not cramping up. Walking through Target the other day and there it was, the Halo 3 preorders are available to reserve a copy for the 9/25 release at midnight. I want this game very badly.

What could I do with $60 though? My Zales credit card could get paid off that much faster if I added $60 to the payment, and I would kill that account maybe a little bit quicker. I could save that $60 for Christmas and just hope a copy is available later. The last one that came out around the same timeframe was Halo 2 and my wife held it hostage from me because it was for Christmas. I can’t go through that again, it’s not a healthy or normal behavior and puts me in a really bad mood.

This sucks so much. My wife has no problem with me buying it since she has a tendency to buy things she is after. She knows better than to go and buy a car or something stupid like that, but I have come home to certain purchases that ran us a few hundred in the past. That is the past though and we have both bought stupid expensive things that I would like to actually pay for now. Not all expensive things are stupid. I’m referring to the Zales account. I still don’t own my wife’s engagement ring and we’ve been married for over a year and engaged a little more than a year prior to that. All the other rings and earrings and jewelry she wears are completely paid for, but not the engagement ring! It feels selfish to actually want something but know that money could be used for another goal.

I got the Xbox 360 system for Christmas last year. It was probably paid for with my wife’s credit card too, so we don’t really own the stupid thing. Sometimes I look at the things in my house and try to figure out whether or not we own it or if we’re still paying for it. All of our furniture is completely paid for which is really nice because it’s nice furniture and the couch feels comfortable to sit in. My basement so much crap in it I can’t completely know for certain what is and isn’t paid for yet. Either way that file box I have with the copies of the statements for the credit cards still have balances on them. Those balances were built up buying something.

This is really hard for me. I try to sacrifice so much and am now plagued by my own want. Now I don’t really know what to do.

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I didn’t have much to post last week after the crazy $300 weekend that spawned a ton of comments from my readers. This weekend wasn’t that bad except for Saturday. Our cat decided to jump on a table and chew on my wife’s iPod. Now my wife is extremely picky about wear and tear and needs everything new looking all the time, so this was not good. I got her this thing for Christmas like 2 years ago and now it is no good because the cat chewed a button on it?

We went down to the mall (HATE HATE MALLS!) to the Apple store to their GeniousBar (yeah, and they use Macs, right) to see what could be done. They told us it could be replaced for $99 but he suggested the little wear and tear to this unit, it might be better to eBay it and buy a new one. She likes hers because it’s original and looks to me for the answer regarding spending $99 to replace this thing. I was annoyed that the decision has to end up in my hands, but I told her that we really don’t have the money right now to do this and there is nothing functionally wrong with the device. Needless to say, she didn’t like my answer.

After she calmed down about not replacing the iPod, the tables turned to cell phones. Our current cell phone contract is up and we’re going to switch providers, and get new phones of course. She thinks it would be a good idea to get an iPhone so she can get a new phone and an iPod in one device. I didn’t even have to say anything to let her know my answer. The iPhone is a toy! It is a very expensive, media hyped, expensive, fancy looking, expensive, toy! Then she just told me she would get it with her credit card. I feel like things are spinning out of control. As I am working so hard to avoid credit, spending, etc. the efforts are being counterbalanced by my wife.

Not sure what to do here anymore. I feel like we’re going in our own directions here and not working together. The pressure of having to borrow money to sell our house bothers the crap out of me. Sure it makes sense to trade a larger loan for a smaller one, but I think this is the wrong time to do this. I would like her to get finished with student teaching, currently a few miles from where we live, so that we could move next year once she’s done. The market sucks, moving sucks, and borrowing money to move sucks.

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I feel financially defeated this month already and the month has barely started. My wife’s friend had a birthday party this past Saturday and invited us downtown to celebrate with her. Since according to my wife that we never do anything fun, we had to go do this. I got my paycheck two days early so there was some money available now.

The weekend started with Friday going to the mall (I HATE MALLS!) and eating out at Subway ($13). Then we had to go shopping because I guess I needed a shirt. I got two shirts at the GAP ($62) I hope she won’t mind me wearing for at least two years. At least we went home after that.

Saturday brought the bulk of the expense. I got a haircut at a place down the street ($16) and my wife got her nails done ($40) at a salon she frequents, to her credit this is semi budgeted. Had to fill up the car with gas ($32) and got cash out of the ATM ($100) to bring with us. Drove to downtown Chicago, north side and searched for public parking for 45 minutes so we could stay with a friend (FREE!). Got some drinks ($15 from $100 cash leaving $85) and ate pizza (my friend covered it) and got ready to go out. We decided to take a cab to the lounge ($10 from cash, $75 left). This is where the fun part came in. For $35 a person, cover, drinks, included, to get into the place ($70 gone from cash, $5 bucks left). My wife and I made sure to get our money’s worth out of that though and after about 10 drinks I was good, my wife could still hold her own at 6. By now it’s roughly 2:30 in the morning downtown and we leave the bar and go to her friend’s new apartment. We decided to get some greasy food to go with our booze and I ended up using some random ATM and paid the fee ($20 cash plus $3 fee, whatever the food cost). We had to take a cab back to our friend’s apartment at 4 in the morning (used the last of cash).

Sunday my wife and I were probably slightly hung over from exercising a barely used drinking muscle but were able to function, just not very efficiently. We rolled out of my friends place around 1 in the afternoon and at lunch ($15) and then headed home. I didn’t do much of anything yesterday so I will have to do more today to make up for the loss of a weekend.

We still have bills to pay and need to keep on top of other things and now I feel down $300 starting out. I have a feeling we’re going to be eating at home all month and really watching the money situation for this month now. It is difficult for some reason for me to convey to my wife bills and expenses should be considered before other stuff, but that isn’t always the case. She still wants to move downtown but there is no way we could do this kind of thing every weekend. This month our cell phone plan is also up so that means we will be getting new phones as soon as possible. I just wish I knew how we were going to pay for them without causing a fight, but more on that later.

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Like I said in my last update, the balance on my Citi card is ugly. Even with a bigger payment, and it wasn’t much more than the minimum as I’m focusing on my smaller debts, it did not level out a whole lot. I’m struggling here trying to recover from an ugly June with more expenses than I really needed to deal with. Even with spinning and rationalizing what is going on, it will not continue to go up! Here are the details on the damage I have done to these things this past month:

I’ve decided in an attempt to try to not only motivate myself to pay it off, but force myself to pay it off within 12 months, to get a 0% balance transfer offer (with no fees!) and move the Associates balance to it. I’ll divide out the balance into fixed payments and treat it as though it were a term instead of revolving account. The Zales account will drop to $1k this month, and I would love to make a mad attempt to pay this one off this year. This would mean about 4 payments of $250 each to kill it once and for all so I’ll see if this can be done.

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