My Debt Blog

Sunday June 3 marks the one year point that my wife and I have been married. I thought getting married things would just stay as they were and it was just an official status we got to. We probably did not do everything in the traditional ways of doing them. In college we got our first apartment together and split the bills, but other than that to each their own. Then it comes around to getting married and nothing changed. Bills would come first and I would take care of our finances. After doing this for about a year and a half now it gets to the point where it doesn’t work for me.

I don’t like to bring up marital issues that are pretty involved, instead more the financial picture. What I am starting to conclude is that it’s not her income and bills, and my income and bills, but our income and bills. From recent comments on past matters I think readers would agree with this. One of my favorite quotes from the movie Fight Club is, “The things you own end up owning you. It’s only after you lose everything that you’re free to do anything.” I’m not waiting to hit the bottom before I find freedom, and I think my wife understands what we need to accomplish.

We’re going to try to create a rough budget together to manage the money before it goes somewhere. When I would do things my priorities were to handle the bills and such first and then what was left over got used for stuff. Savings seems to always be neglected unless a lump sum of money came into the picture that I would stash away before it could be spent. Then months come by where the income didn’t line up with expenses, and savings would pick up the rest to zero out the month. I think a good, planned out budget will help us drastically because our current system doesn’t work.

Here’s to one interesting year and the best is yet to come.

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